Comments on: Tim’s dating advice for Christian students

By: Paul

Paul — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 01:45:51 +0000

Great advice Tim. I too am christian. I've followed ur advice and found someone wonderful! thanks.

By: April

April — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 22:12:36 +0000

Hi Beverly. I'm a young youth director at a church, too. This is something you NEED to bring to the attention of the church pastoral staff. They need to be aware of the situation. The youth director is definitely acting inappropriately, not just for himself…but also because of his position and influence, representing the church. Please schedule a time SOON to talk to the senior pastor about this. This will also help create accountability for him.

By: Beverly

Beverly — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 06:06:12 +0000

My daughter is dating the youth director at a church she attends. He is very obsessed with her and within 2 months, has given her a promise ring (which IS an engagement ring) and for Valentines Day a 1.5 carat necklace. He says if they don't make it she can pawn them and pay for 1 yr. of college. This relationship to me is wrong. I am trying to figure out how to end it without it bringing them closer together. My daughter is 16, he is 23. She has never lied to me until "him", she is in this for the long haul, she says and he texts constantly and one texted said, "everytime we kiss I think of us at the altar on our wedding day." He is really scaring me and I don't know what to do. I do have an appt. with a couselor to help me go about this the best way, any advice is greatly appreciated. This is a very short blurb of a bigger story.

By: Martin

Martin — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 16:58:23 +0000

awesome post! glad i found your site, it was on accident though =/ check mine out if you want. im still really working on it but it should be great soon

By: James Joyce

James Joyce — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 20:37:02 +0000

Well researched site – I love Bernard Cornwell’s work! – Will look to incorporate some of your ideas into my site. Thanks!

By: Dana Schmoyer

Dana Schmoyer — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 17:18:46 +0000

"Trying to figure out what you’re looking for in a mate is not nearly as important as becoming who God wants you to be for your future mate."
A great book for girls on that part of dating is "Lady in Waiting" by Jackie Kendall and Debbie Jones. One of our youth girls were reading books on dating for part of her homeschooling and asked me for what books I recommend, and Lady in Waiting was her favorite of all she read. Really good book for a woman at any stage in her life and relationships.

By: Michelle Houston

Michelle Houston — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 17:14:23 +0000

Really great concept. Where did you get this content? Do you write everything yourself?

By: Cameron Sharpe

Cameron Sharpe — Wed, 20 May 2009 10:03:17 +0000

It is a great place to meet people indeed! Especially when the two of you chat on IM and found that there's a connection, even if it's just a little bit. This might lead to real life dating and possibly marriage! I have seen people who met online and got married!

By: Renata H.

Renata H. — Mon, 18 May 2009 02:00:41 +0000

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By: Jennifer R.

Jennifer R. — Mon, 18 May 2009 01:50:46 +0000

You made some good points there. I did a search on the topic and found most people will agree with your blog.

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By: Dana

Dana — Tue, 16 Oct 2007 01:23:35 +0000

Duke, I like the questions you ask the students.

I was asked to help teach on dating at my Dad’s church, the youth director took the guys and I took the girls… afterwards when they were back together one of the boys came up and asked, “What did you say to them!?” I later found up that guy’s girlfriend broke up with him that week. God used me more than I thought.

By: Chris Reeder

Chris Reeder — Mon, 15 Oct 2007 12:49:56 +0000

Great list. I pray that my kids will listen to advice. I was a teen once not long ago; there are so many times I wish I would have listened… (looking back as an adult)

I love what Brian said too… “focus…more on being the right person”

By: Duke

Duke — Mon, 15 Oct 2007 05:11:08 +0000

Good points,
One I always say which is hard for teenagers to digest it, have a final destination in the relationship, the destination should be marriage, if that not where it’s heading, why bother getting involved, you will only fall into temptation, and it’s not worth it. Just be mates.
So some quick questions I ask are:
Could you marry this person?
If so when would that be?
Can you wait that long?
I realise that these questions are massive and somewhat unknown, but to get them to realise, relationships with the opposite sex are a serious thing is important.
Some people think this is extreme, but the amount of pain I’ve witnessed due to premature relationships is not fun, I’ve also seen couple give away their faith because they gave into their lusts. Jesus is more important than a guy or a girl.

By: Brian Eberly

Brian Eberly — Mon, 15 Oct 2007 05:03:57 +0000

Great list Tim. One I would add is, focus less on finding the right person, and more on being the right person.

By: Various Parables

Various Parables — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

* Youth specialties regular and friend to youth ministry, Dan Kimball, is dealing with the failing health of his father. Follow along here, and keep Dan and his family in your prayers. *Some dating advice fromthis youth pastor’s blog.* Osteen bench presses 300? Another classic from my favorite blog right now. * A good thought on the impact of parents vs. the impact of youth workers on this blog. * With the transformers movie due out today -