Back together with Dana for 2006

Whew, the holiday season is finally over. It’s good to be back in my apartment tonight and looking forward to my regular weekly schedule starting tomorrow morning. Between my travels to Pennsylvania for Christmas and Texarkana for New Years, I have a lot of stories to update here on my blog. Among the most pressing stories, however, is the fact that Dana and I are officially back together. She wrote about it briefly on her blog if you wanna know how I asked her out, but here I’ll summarize our story of the past two years.

Dana and I have been friends for the past 10 years or so, but it wasn’t until 2003 that we re-connected here in Dallas and started dating. After a year and a half, I ended the relationship due to a pattern of struggles that became pretty draining for me. From that time in April of 2005 to this past week we’ve tried very hard to remain friends, which honestly at some times was very difficult. There was clearly a lot of necessary growing and maturing on both our parts that needed to take place before either of us could be in a position to date anyone.

Over the course of the summer and this past semester, I saw a lot of impressive growth taking place in her life. I also saw the Lord doing a lot in me to change my heart in certain ways. By the time August came around, it appeared that there could still be a future for the two of us together. Our pastor invited us to meet with him twice a month for a time of processing and evaluation, an invitation we gladly accepted. Three months later, the love Dana and I have for each other has completely resurfaced and brought us into 2006 together as a couple.

I’ll admit that I was pretty nervous last Thursday when I asked her about solidifying our relationship again, but I know our relationship this second time will be much different than it was the first time. We both understand each other infinitely better, we know how to respond more appropriately to each other, and how to handle conflict. According to Pastor Rol, some married couples don’t learn these lessons until they’re several years into a marriage, so he’s very optimistic about the learning and growing Dana and I have gone through this past year.

What the future holds for us is unknown — we’re taking it one step at a time and learning the lessons that come one by one. At the present, we are very much enjoying each other again and are happy to see a new level of health in our new relationship. Thanks to everyone who prayed for us this year, who supported us, and imparted their Godly wisdom and advice!

Posted on January 3, 2006

  • Congrats, Tim. I will be praying for you.

  • Hi Tim,

    At the risk of being a bit invasive and not really knowing you at all… when my wife and I struggled while dating with various, popular stuggles in different parts of our relationship, we started reading through the bible together and noticed it gave us much more spiritual strength for tough times and also cut uus up and humbled us in the process. I don't know if this is something that you already do , but I HIGHLY recommend it as a testimony for the strong foundation it gave us. Blessings to you both from an invasive stranger! Peace!

  • oh and congrats, a great way to start the new year!:grin:

  • We read the Bible together each night while we were dating the first time. For me this brought our relationship to a whole new level that is too intimate for me to handle right now. I enjoyed the other night where we were able to sit next to each other and have our own personal time with God.

    Good re-cap of our relationship Tim. I hope you are having a great day. Miss you! :wink:

  • Kym

    YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That's all I'm going to say. I LOVE you both and I too have seen a spirtual growth in your both. Your DAILY in our prayers and when I heard Timmy was heading to Dana's for the New Year. I had Great hopes and lots of prayers that you two were either going to work it out or totally end it(Whatever the LOrd lead you two to do). You two love eachother so take it slow this time and your on a great path. Most couples never had this "getting to know eachother"time before marriage.Keep strong in Him and I'm sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo Happy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!(Actually I'm in complete TEARS knowing how much I love the both of you)Keep on Keeping on in Him. Jason and I are always here for you!! Love always, Kym

  • Awww thank you Kym! I wanted Tim to call you with the news, I almost told you in my reply to your email, but figured Tim should be the one to tell you. Thank you for all your prayers. You just put the biggest smile on my face. I love you so much Kym!

  • That is awesome! Sounds like God has been working a lot in both of your hearts. I do believe TIME is one of God's most healing tools. So much can happen if we are only patient enough to wait on Him. Congrats!

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