The best thing you can do for families in your ministry

Parents pray togetherIf you follow me on Twitter or are a fan of the Life In Student Ministry Facebook page, you’ve probably seen that I’m working on a book to be published by Group Publishing.

I wrote this in it today and would love your feedback about it.

“Among Christians, the divorce rate is similar to that of unbelievers: fifty-three percent. However, according to David and Jan Stoop in their book, ‘When Couples Pray Together,’ for parents who share intimate prayer requests and pray together twice a week, that statistic drops to less than one percent. The best thing you can do for teens and families in your ministry is to help parents pray together.”

Do you agree? Disagree? What ideas do you have for helping parents form a habit of sharing intimate prayer requests and praying together regularly? Would love to hear your thoughts in the comments below. Thanks!

P.S. I posed this same question on Facebook, if you want to see some of the great responses there already, too.

Posted on September 29, 2011

  • Mike

    I totally agree. My wife and I made a commitment when we got married to pray together every night before bed.

    Do you know how hard it is to pray with someone you're angry at? Basically we have to hash out any conflicts before we pray, therefore most conflicts don't carry over to the next day.

    • When you were angry with each other, did you just pray that God would humble the other person and show them the error of their ways? :)

  • I've heard this stat too, i've also heard that this stat is grossly overstated, especially by the way the stat was done and how they conceptualized "christian" it comes down to the essence of the way some call this a 'christian" nation. Another study conceptualized it to "evangelical christian" and that one proved much better. I need to go find where they are to share them, but i do know the first study was rather fatally flawed in that manner.

    • Ahh, that makes sense. If you find the original research, that'd be great. Either way, the point is helping parents pray together. That's the focus of my point.

      • I think its Barna. Will email my youth prof and see if I can't track it down.

        Coincidentally, I learned that my sabbath has a great impact on my marriage (wrote this a few days ago, to be published Friday AM)

  • youthpastor96

    In my opinion, if a couple is praying together, most of the time they are also working in ministry together. That doesn't necessarily mean that they're on staff somewhere, but they are serving together. Think about your relationships outside of marriage. There are some people in my church that I've gathered with individually and corporately to pray for and with and our relationship has gotten closer and closer. There are others, even deacons, whom I've never heard pray and it seems like we're worlds apart. The ones who we've prayed for and with, we also see how much they do together. The others seem to be Sunday morning church goers and 6 day home sitters.

  • Daniel

    I think that praying together is an indicator of other things going on in the marriage relationship. I would assume that those who pray together also spend time in the word, serve, and pray alone. I would imagine that they are also those that share their faith and tithe. Basically where this is going, is that praying together is an indicator of a life surrendered to God in everything. Which means they are going to stick it out no matter what.

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