Tonight was one of those nights when ya drop everything you had planned for the small group meeting because the students bring other issues to discuss instead. With my Sr. High guys group, I start every small group meeting with, “Tell me about your week,” which usually takes us about a half-hour before we move into the lesson. But tonight I changed the question to, “What has God taught you this week?” They took a second to think and then jumped straight in to the topic of girl drama taking place in their lives. As soon as I heard some of the latest news concerning their women, I knew my lesson should be dropped until the next week.
The high school guys had a great talk tonight about girls, relationships, values, and selfishness. At my suggestion, they put together a list of what they look for in girls and, with their permission, I thought I’d share it here. These characteristics are straight from their mouths, not mine.
What my high school guys look for in a potential girlfriend:
1. Physically attractive
2. Female (must be a girl) :)
3. Humble
4. Dresses modestly
5. Maintains a positive attitude
6. Shares similar beliefs
7. Gives us freedom (i.e. play video games and hobbies)
8. Does not use guilt or manipulation
9. Respect for themselves and others
10. Is patient
11. Listens to us
12. Is within 4 years of our age
Once they finished the list, I asked them, “How many of these traits can you determine before even entering a relationship?” Their answer: “All of them.”
Maybe now they’ve raised their own standards a little higher and can consciously save themselves from unnecessary relationships that bring tough heartache.
What a fun night!
(P.S. Having read the above qualifications, all my guys are available and are taking applications from any girls who might be interested.) ;)
About me: I am married to my beautiful wife, 
From Ministry Questions.com...
March 2nd, 2006 at 7:38 pm
it’s refreshing to read this about your high school guys. way to go, guys!
July 27th, 2008 at 10:49 pm
so this site is pretty sweet. haha. what church is this link from? i live in minnesota too! thats kindof sweet. but honestly i really like your guys’s opinions on what you look for. haha
December 24th, 2008 at 6:21 pm
I could basically do some of those qualifications. However I disagree with something. It says within four years of age and I think it’s more like within two years of age. Im twelve years old and I like sixteen year old boys but they would never date me because they think Imm way to young.
March 20th, 2009 at 11:07 am
I typed in “what high school guys look for in girls” and this is the first one that came up. but this is also cool because i go to church too. I just wish this list was for guys who go to public school. They have different ideas about what they “look” for in girls!
August 26th, 2009 at 5:09 pm
well guys are domb i say just forget them and move on with ur life…
September 6th, 2009 at 2:42 am
Ah. So THAT'S it. I'm just kidding. I was bored and looked up articles about guys… And this came up! Yay! It was just what I was looking for. It's great to see that Christian guys really do look for those qualities in girls. I'm also a Christian and live in Indiana. I always laughed at my father's stories about Minnesota, where he grew up, but I've always found the guys there to be really nice!
I just want to say keep it up boys! Go find those girls! *cheers and laughs*